What makes someone sexy? Is it their appearance, who they are, what they do? Or can it be defined by money, the cars they drive? What makes a person sexy to another, and yet someone else would say "I don't think so."? Millions of people find stars sexy. Angelina Jolie comes to mind. Aside from her outer exterior, which as a female I can honestly say is pretty hot, what makes her so attractive? After all, she's just a woman except that her job keeps her in the limelight. What about the average Joanna Schmo down the street? Once you get past the outer packaging, what's the person about. I've met some phenomenally
good looking people, only to find out the inner them resembles a horrid little troll. Like biting into a beautiful piece of chocolate and finding a worm.
Sexiness is broken down in so many ways by so many people. For me it's not all about looks. It's about the inner person, their thoughts and views, how they treat others. Don't get me wrong, I like a pretty person but it's not the end all be all of who they are. Humor is important. I find humor sexy. Not everyone has the ability to make others laugh, and there's power in that. Intelligence is sexy. Stimulate my mind and and you will keep me listening. BTW- this is not a want ad for a date. I am happily married, he makes me laugh and is quite intelligent. He can cook too!!
Flirting can be sexy, but not sexual. I'll explain. I am a notorious flirt. I flirt with everyone and it has nothing to do with sex. Flirting makes people feel good, it makes them relaxed and easier to talk with. It's beyond "come hither & yon" looks and coy smiles. Flirting is an invitation to engage in conversation, to relax and allow some of your inner persona to shine . It's an art I try to perform daily. It can be a shared smile with a stranger about something you're both witnessing. Yes, men do this too whether they realize it or not. It's also a nice way to get your way without becoming a flat out bitch.
Sexiness is about knowing who you are, your place in your world and feeling good about it. It's not about makeup, clothes, or what you own. It's about acceptance of self, the good and the bad. We are not going to look like Angelina (bless her little heart), but we can shine like she does in our own way.
Be good to yourself.
Friday, February 29, 2008
Beowulf
I quite liked the movie. It did look like a very well done video game, but the story was very cool. And a warning as well: Be careful what you bargain for, as it's never what it seems. ***1/2
Thursday, February 28, 2008
Natural disasters
Mother Nature in all her glorious wonder has her moments where I really feel She's channeling Kali, the Destroyer. England had an earthquake quite recently and I was surprised at that. I had no idea they got earthquakes. I guess it doesn't matter where you go in the world some sort of natural disaster is waiting to occur, whether it be floods, snow storm or hurricane.
I've lived in S. Florida for over 20 years. In that time we've had to batten down the hatches due to hurricanes. After Andrew hit Miami in the early 90's, no one messed around when we heard "We're under a hurricane watch". Lines out the door of food markets, home improvement stores were a given. People got serious very quickly. And then when nothing happened for a bit, people became complacent. So Mother Nature decided to let us know again just how destructive she could be. Two hurricanes hit a county north of us about an hour away and to the west of us on the west coast. She made those loop back around after everyone thought once again they were safe. Surprise!
Once again hurricane season rolled round and nothing happened for a bit until October of 2005. Everyone did their stockpiling and had dropped shutters or put up plywood. The night before was beautiful. Not a cloud in the sky. I thought, "We'll be safe again. No way is she going to hit us. It's so late in the season and it's rare when they come ashore then." We live approximately 10 miles on the east side of Florida. And Wilma was coming up through the Gulf. No way was it going to hit.
My husband, son & I are up early the next morning watching the news to check the status. At 7:10 am we hear the winds pick up and the lights flicker on and off. "No big deal", we think. Cha! Suddenly, no lights and the wind is howling. My patio doors even in lock down are shaking. One cat is under the bed, the other is stretched out on top taking a nap. I really wanted to join the one under the bed. Instead I went out on the patio, which has it's own large shutter, to get some air as it's stifling in the house. My son and I are out there talking, when we suddenly hear a train. Trust me when I tell you, this is not a good sign as that means Tornado and close by. We haul ass back into the house and now the train sounds like it's right over us. My son is very fearful of tornados and rightfully so. After a few minutes, the sound passes and the wind dies down.
My husband is out in the garage with the door open taking video of what has transpired so far. Not too bad we think after 2 hours of none stop wind and rain. We used to have a huge Black Olive tree on the east side of our house. My husband had gotten the video of it toppling over. So in the eye of the storm we go out to check around and see what's happened thus far. Everyones yards were stripped of any foliage and we had our tree lying from the corner of our house out into the street and into the neighbors yard across the street. The wind started to pick up again, so it was time to get back inside. Two more hours of rain and wind ensued.
Afterwards, no power. We had 2 weeks with no power. The sound of generators fills the air. One good thing is that the hurricane picked up all the hot surface air, so it was quite chilly for 2 weeks. I tried to drive to work a couple days later and wasn't able to make it through the debris. Had to take a shortcut and came across a trailer which had been flipped up and over onto it's neighbor. Scientists tried to say it was only a category 2 hurricane. No way! That was definitely a 3. So I made it through my first, and hopefully last hurricane. Chef Boyardee by candle light gets old very quickly, as do freezing cold showers. And living through enforced curfews sucks, but it's not as if anyone had anywhere to go anyway. The one redeeming factor with no lights is that the stars were beautiful. And they felt so close as if you could reach up and pluck one from the sky.
Natural disasters- there's nothing natural about them. In fact, they feel quite supernatural. It makes you contemplate and realize you are powerless in the face of the wrath of Mother Nature when she's throwing a tantrum.
I've lived in S. Florida for over 20 years. In that time we've had to batten down the hatches due to hurricanes. After Andrew hit Miami in the early 90's, no one messed around when we heard "We're under a hurricane watch". Lines out the door of food markets, home improvement stores were a given. People got serious very quickly. And then when nothing happened for a bit, people became complacent. So Mother Nature decided to let us know again just how destructive she could be. Two hurricanes hit a county north of us about an hour away and to the west of us on the west coast. She made those loop back around after everyone thought once again they were safe. Surprise!
Once again hurricane season rolled round and nothing happened for a bit until October of 2005. Everyone did their stockpiling and had dropped shutters or put up plywood. The night before was beautiful. Not a cloud in the sky. I thought, "We'll be safe again. No way is she going to hit us. It's so late in the season and it's rare when they come ashore then." We live approximately 10 miles on the east side of Florida. And Wilma was coming up through the Gulf. No way was it going to hit.
My husband, son & I are up early the next morning watching the news to check the status. At 7:10 am we hear the winds pick up and the lights flicker on and off. "No big deal", we think. Cha! Suddenly, no lights and the wind is howling. My patio doors even in lock down are shaking. One cat is under the bed, the other is stretched out on top taking a nap. I really wanted to join the one under the bed. Instead I went out on the patio, which has it's own large shutter, to get some air as it's stifling in the house. My son and I are out there talking, when we suddenly hear a train. Trust me when I tell you, this is not a good sign as that means Tornado and close by. We haul ass back into the house and now the train sounds like it's right over us. My son is very fearful of tornados and rightfully so. After a few minutes, the sound passes and the wind dies down.
My husband is out in the garage with the door open taking video of what has transpired so far. Not too bad we think after 2 hours of none stop wind and rain. We used to have a huge Black Olive tree on the east side of our house. My husband had gotten the video of it toppling over. So in the eye of the storm we go out to check around and see what's happened thus far. Everyones yards were stripped of any foliage and we had our tree lying from the corner of our house out into the street and into the neighbors yard across the street. The wind started to pick up again, so it was time to get back inside. Two more hours of rain and wind ensued.
Afterwards, no power. We had 2 weeks with no power. The sound of generators fills the air. One good thing is that the hurricane picked up all the hot surface air, so it was quite chilly for 2 weeks. I tried to drive to work a couple days later and wasn't able to make it through the debris. Had to take a shortcut and came across a trailer which had been flipped up and over onto it's neighbor. Scientists tried to say it was only a category 2 hurricane. No way! That was definitely a 3. So I made it through my first, and hopefully last hurricane. Chef Boyardee by candle light gets old very quickly, as do freezing cold showers. And living through enforced curfews sucks, but it's not as if anyone had anywhere to go anyway. The one redeeming factor with no lights is that the stars were beautiful. And they felt so close as if you could reach up and pluck one from the sky.
Natural disasters- there's nothing natural about them. In fact, they feel quite supernatural. It makes you contemplate and realize you are powerless in the face of the wrath of Mother Nature when she's throwing a tantrum.
Wednesday, February 27, 2008
Boredom kills
I am so bored. I'm usually very good at entertaining myself and keeping myself busy, but this enforced down time is driving me nuts.
I see by widget counter thingy that there are people visiting my page. Post some things to tell me how you combat boredom. And please don't tell me to read as I do that already. And I've watched terrible t.v. Speaking of, I watched the newest installment of the Highlander movies. I WANT MY MONEY BACK!!!!!! That's all I'm saying.
I see by widget counter thingy that there are people visiting my page. Post some things to tell me how you combat boredom. And please don't tell me to read as I do that already. And I've watched terrible t.v. Speaking of, I watched the newest installment of the Highlander movies. I WANT MY MONEY BACK!!!!!! That's all I'm saying.
Tuesday, February 26, 2008
A-Z. All about me.
A
If you were an ANIMAL, what would you be?
Some sort of feline, of course.
B
BOOKS: What’s on your reading list?
I have almost 350 books on my tbr. There's no way I'm listing this. Check the Shelfari widget to the right.
C
COMPULSIVE about anything?
Reading and book buying. I look at it as research for my future business.
D
DREAMS - Do you … dream in color? remember your dreams? keep a dream journal?
I do dream, sometimes in color, sometimes in B & W. Sometimes I remember and no, I don't keep a journal.
E
EATING - what’s your usual snack?
Plain popcorn. My favorite food.
F
A Few of your FAVORITE Things
Books, shoes, italian food, the Japanese culture, my cat China Moon
G
GIGGLES! What (or who) makes you laugh? Do you have a good sense of humor?
My husband and sons make me giggle. I believe I have a good sense of humor, albeit, a bit dark. As in, It's only funny til someone loses an eye...then it's downright hysterical. That type of humor. Or I found Jesus...he was hiding behind the sofa.
H
major HOT Button:
Someone lying to me.
I
I am ______________
me. While consistent in some things, in others I am not as consistent. Mercurial by nature would be the best definition.
K
Also KNOWN As… Aliases? Screen names? A non de plume perhaps?
Helen
L
I LOVE …
my hubby, my boys, my cats, my friends, books, good shoes.
M
How do you feel about MEETING people? Do it all the time? Rarely? Parties or 1-on-1?
While I tolerate it for business, personally I prefer it online. I would like to me some of my online friends eventually if possible, but if not, it's all good.
N
What’s the story of your NAME? were you named after anyone? Do you go by a nickname? Any aliases?
I was named after Helen Keller. My father thought her a phenomenal woman, and I quite agree. Helena is my nickname from way back.
O
OBSERVANT - What’s around you right now? What do you see?
Some yowling cat that does not belong to me, my cat ChinaMoon, candles, the trees, my pool, my lappy, the sun. I am on my patio.
P
Who are the special PEOPLE in your life?
Family & the few close friends I have.
Q
Any Little QUIRKs About Yourself:
Yes. Don't touch my stuff. Don't look at my books or magazines until I'm done with them. Will not use public facilities.
R
What do you like to do for RECREATION?
Read, play Guitar Hero, read, bake, read, watch the Science channel, read, oh yes, and read some more. And shop Amazon for yet more things to read. I have an addiction.
S
Do You SING in the Shower? In the car? For your friends?
Yes.
T
What’s at the Top of your TO DO list?:
Not to make To Do Lists.
U
Any UNUSUAL Experiences:
My life is an unusual experience. I just try and enjoy it.
V
VEGAS, Vienna, Venice, Vladivostok… How far have you traveled? What’s your favorite City?
New York, New York. I've been twice for less than 24 hours each time. I want to go back and spend some time at the museums and see a couple plays.
W
WINTER, Spring, Summer, Fall… What’s your favorite season? What makes it special?
Fall. Nature at her most beautiful. When the Earth is getting ready for sleep and renewal. Days get darker sooner.
X
EXes - Things You Don’t Do Anymore (but did, once (would you, again?))
I used to bite my nails. A gross and terrible habit. No, I don't believe I'll do that again.
Y
Any secret/deep YEARNINGS?
To move and to work for myself. Which is not a secret, but is definitely a deep yearing.
Z
ZERO to ZENITH - Where are you in your life? Still growing? On an upward (or downward) curve? Just skating along?
Still growing, but stuck at the moment just skating along.
If you were an ANIMAL, what would you be?
Some sort of feline, of course.
B
BOOKS: What’s on your reading list?
I have almost 350 books on my tbr. There's no way I'm listing this. Check the Shelfari widget to the right.
C
COMPULSIVE about anything?
Reading and book buying. I look at it as research for my future business.
D
DREAMS - Do you … dream in color? remember your dreams? keep a dream journal?
I do dream, sometimes in color, sometimes in B & W. Sometimes I remember and no, I don't keep a journal.
E
EATING - what’s your usual snack?
Plain popcorn. My favorite food.
F
A Few of your FAVORITE Things
Books, shoes, italian food, the Japanese culture, my cat China Moon
G
GIGGLES! What (or who) makes you laugh? Do you have a good sense of humor?
My husband and sons make me giggle. I believe I have a good sense of humor, albeit, a bit dark. As in, It's only funny til someone loses an eye...then it's downright hysterical. That type of humor. Or I found Jesus...he was hiding behind the sofa.
H
major HOT Button:
Someone lying to me.
I
I am ______________
me. While consistent in some things, in others I am not as consistent. Mercurial by nature would be the best definition.
K
Also KNOWN As… Aliases? Screen names? A non de plume perhaps?
Helen
L
I LOVE …
my hubby, my boys, my cats, my friends, books, good shoes.
M
How do you feel about MEETING people? Do it all the time? Rarely? Parties or 1-on-1?
While I tolerate it for business, personally I prefer it online. I would like to me some of my online friends eventually if possible, but if not, it's all good.
N
What’s the story of your NAME? were you named after anyone? Do you go by a nickname? Any aliases?
I was named after Helen Keller. My father thought her a phenomenal woman, and I quite agree. Helena is my nickname from way back.
O
OBSERVANT - What’s around you right now? What do you see?
Some yowling cat that does not belong to me, my cat ChinaMoon, candles, the trees, my pool, my lappy, the sun. I am on my patio.
P
Who are the special PEOPLE in your life?
Family & the few close friends I have.
Q
Any Little QUIRKs About Yourself:
Yes. Don't touch my stuff. Don't look at my books or magazines until I'm done with them. Will not use public facilities.
R
What do you like to do for RECREATION?
Read, play Guitar Hero, read, bake, read, watch the Science channel, read, oh yes, and read some more. And shop Amazon for yet more things to read. I have an addiction.
S
Do You SING in the Shower? In the car? For your friends?
Yes.
T
What’s at the Top of your TO DO list?:
Not to make To Do Lists.
U
Any UNUSUAL Experiences:
My life is an unusual experience. I just try and enjoy it.
V
VEGAS, Vienna, Venice, Vladivostok… How far have you traveled? What’s your favorite City?
New York, New York. I've been twice for less than 24 hours each time. I want to go back and spend some time at the museums and see a couple plays.
W
WINTER, Spring, Summer, Fall… What’s your favorite season? What makes it special?
Fall. Nature at her most beautiful. When the Earth is getting ready for sleep and renewal. Days get darker sooner.
X
EXes - Things You Don’t Do Anymore (but did, once (would you, again?))
I used to bite my nails. A gross and terrible habit. No, I don't believe I'll do that again.
Y
Any secret/deep YEARNINGS?
To move and to work for myself. Which is not a secret, but is definitely a deep yearing.
Z
ZERO to ZENITH - Where are you in your life? Still growing? On an upward (or downward) curve? Just skating along?
Still growing, but stuck at the moment just skating along.
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Men
So you thought my blog was completely about books. Nope. This particular post is about men. One in particular, but I'm going to generalize anyway. There is no way just my man can be this hard headed.
Let's start off with that horrible, horrible book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Pffft! Last time I checked, we were all from here. Don't give me b.s. reasons why men can't/won't/don't open up. I don't want to hear it. When we talk to them, they either ignore us, yes dear us to death or want to fix the problem. By the way, I loathe the word dear. It sets me off. That's a whole other rant. And most men don't buy into this either. My male friends laugh themselves silly when I bring up that book in conversation. Real men don't share their feelings. These are the same men who will say that is just not done by real men, and then slap each others asses at a pick up football game. Go figure...caveman mentality.
We see our man is upset. What's the matter, can I help, etc. And in return, we get- "I don't want to talk about it". Why not? "I'm effiing mad right now". Ok well talking about it might help to get it out, clear the air, get some composure perhaps.... maybe. "I don't want to talk about it". No, it's much easier to call up some unsuspecting person, vent your spleen on them, and then pout, grab your stuff and leave for 4-5 hours. Leaving me here to wonder- WTH? How difficult is to say "This made me mad or this person did this and it made me mad"? I always feel better when I rant about someone who's made me mad. I can say horrible things about them and then get on with my day.
Men- can live them, but only by their rules, can't live without them because who else can you get to look at your vehicle for free when it messes up.
Let's start off with that horrible, horrible book Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Pffft! Last time I checked, we were all from here. Don't give me b.s. reasons why men can't/won't/don't open up. I don't want to hear it. When we talk to them, they either ignore us, yes dear us to death or want to fix the problem. By the way, I loathe the word dear. It sets me off. That's a whole other rant. And most men don't buy into this either. My male friends laugh themselves silly when I bring up that book in conversation. Real men don't share their feelings. These are the same men who will say that is just not done by real men, and then slap each others asses at a pick up football game. Go figure...caveman mentality.
We see our man is upset. What's the matter, can I help, etc. And in return, we get- "I don't want to talk about it". Why not? "I'm effiing mad right now". Ok well talking about it might help to get it out, clear the air, get some composure perhaps.... maybe. "I don't want to talk about it". No, it's much easier to call up some unsuspecting person, vent your spleen on them, and then pout, grab your stuff and leave for 4-5 hours. Leaving me here to wonder- WTH? How difficult is to say "This made me mad or this person did this and it made me mad"? I always feel better when I rant about someone who's made me mad. I can say horrible things about them and then get on with my day.
Men- can live them, but only by their rules, can't live without them because who else can you get to look at your vehicle for free when it messes up.
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